The elephant in the room - Sugar...

[kseenaa]

We had a little birthday party for Peting's aunt's husband. And, of course, his cousin was there. She's gotten diabetes not that long ago, and of course has had to stop eat anything sweet. And she has done really well with that, she’s even stopped eating nearly all carbohydrates! So, she’s being good, which keeps her diabetes under control! So yay!

But, and this is what bothers me somewhat. As soon as we meet up with Peting’s relatives it’s all talk about sugar and carbs and how bad it is, but still there’s carb and sugar in the birthday food. So I eat it, but feel scrutinized and commented on the whole time, even if they don’t say it to me. They just discuss how bad it is with carbs and sugar.

It just makes me feel quite uncomfortable. And when I hinted at it, my MIL just said that I’m the healthy one since I can eat it without being sick. Really? I don’t feel healthy or even comfortable when they talk about it every time we meet up all of us. :-/

I hope it won’t be like that on Saturday when we celebrate Peting's birthday. It’ll be my brother there to and his kids, so I hope that will distract from this constant subject. *sigh*

This entry is cross posted between LJ and DW. Comment where you are comfortable.

Comments

[synkkaenkeli]

That's how I feel at work with everyone dieting and you can't eat this and that and this and I'm like "So I'm supposed to starve?"

[kseenaa]

I know I don't mean anything bad by it, you know? But it still stings. And I don't think they're aware that it does. :-P I mean, both my MIL and Peting eats LowCarbHighFat just to keep their diabetes under control. Which is fine! Great eaven, since they don't have to eat that much medication then! But for gawds sake, find something else to talk about! Especially my MIL is very focused on this, and keeps giving us books that she's found and read and thing is very good about the subject of the evilness of carbohydrates... especially kids and carbohydrates...

Interestingly though when Alexandra is actually there she spoils her rotten. *raises eyebrow...*

[synkkaenkeli]

Right and people keep telling me "oh eat less carbs" yes i know I eat a lotof carbs because I'm not big on meat. It's a STRUGGLE for me to eat meat. I try and get protien in other ways like peanut butter etc...but it's hard. Just me finding food i can choke down sometimes is almost impossible. I have a very weird fluxuating food relationship.

[kseenaa]

Yeah, for some food is never really easy. For me the problem is it's been TO easy! *LOL* Which can be a struggle to, really.

Gladly though I don't get any comments neither on my body size nor my food at work at the school in the troubled area. WHich is AWESOME! You might think my crazy ass teens would comment any, but no. Nothing. Which is kinda awesome as well, I'd say. :-)

[steinsgrrl]

Idgi. If it's so bad, why do they serve it? They should be talking about how it's only for special occasions, which a birthday would be, so they shouldn't feel guilty but should be careful the rest of the time. Did the cousin get to eat anything, then? That all just sends mixed messages.

[kseenaa]

I know, I know... :-/ It's really starting to bother me.

Not sure how it works with talking about special occession with Peting's cousin though. She has a mental disability, so you have to be very clear with her, you know? So maybe, all this talk is for her benefit? To get it in her head? Getting her to think in new ways can be... problematic at times. And she's a serious sugar addict, so to have her stop sugar and carbohydrates to keep her diabetes under check has been interesting. It has worked though, and much like Peting and my MIL she now keeps her diabetes in control with every little medication.

But even though, it gets a bit much sometimes. I mean, my MIL keeps giving us books about LowCarb food and the dangers with carbohydrates that she has read herself and thinks we should read to, hinting about Alexandra. And she eats extremly little sweets. :-/

[steinsgrrl]

Yeah, I know where you're coming from, and where your mom is coming from. I see people eating treats too much & I cringe, and I know she just cares about you guys. Even though Alexandra might not now, I'm sure she doesn't want her to start and we worry. You know, that mom thing. lol

[kseenaa]

I guess it is a mom thing... It's my MIL, btw, not my mom. Which makes even more sense why it would be a care thing when it comes from her. Because diabetes keeps running in Peting's family. And he is an only child... as is Alexandra... So she's the only grandkid my MIL will ever get. Not only spoiled, but I do believe my MIL is very protective off her to.