My wonderful family... and my Achilles heel...

[kseenaa]

If you didn't know it, I am somewhat a silly sod... *shakes head at self* My best friend, spicehobbit, and my MIL has been here today and helped us clean this place. It was a mess. Mostly because I haven't been able to do anything. And I hate, Hate, HATE feeling this useless!

Anyway. Mom was supposed to come help but... of course she fell over to outside her house. o.O Gladly she didn't break anything, but she got a HUGE black eye which makes it look like she went a round in the ring against a boxer...

Of course I got worried, but she assured me she was fine. My aunt (who just as mom is an assistant nurse) had been there and taken care of her and my brother as well, so once I was reassured she was going to be fine, I was good.

But that meant I had to ask for help from someone else. And even though I've known my best friend for... 25 years this autumn and my MIL for as long as I've known peting73... It's was still very very hard for me to ask for help. I've been down all day, so has peting73, which made it even harder. Eventually I did it for his sake. He is not used to taking care of all the household work plus Alexandra plus work like he has to do now. I am just useless currently.

Both of them came over and man... WOW! peting73 only had to do the floors, the rest... spicehobbit and my MIL did for us. I am... so grateful right now, I don't even know what to say.

I'm a helper. Not someone that asks for help. And I will admit I am struggling with this.

It's just been a week. One short week. And I'll probably have this cast for six weeks in total. It'll be tough as hell. :-/

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Comments

[shapinglight]

Oh dear. Sorry it's being so hard, though very glad to hear you have supportive family.

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

I'll most likely have my cast for five more weeks, so yeah... It's really really tough. :-/ I feel horrible for not being able to help Peting around the house since I used to do quite a bit (not all, mind).

I am, really, beyond grateful I have such a great family and friends. I really am. My brother is coming over in two weeks as well to help out, so I do have help. I just suck at asking for it. :-P

[ruchirahni.livejournal.com]

sorry, going to ignore above for a moment, YAY, LIVEJOURNAL UPDATES!!!

i'm sorry lovey. it all sucks and if you were anybody else id tell you to just enjoy the break but i know that doesn't apply here. there's nothing you can do about it and it wasn't your fault at all. try not to think of yourself as useless or helpless though. instead just think of it as.... supervising.

a habit takes 21 days to form (i think) it will probably be frustrating and stressful for petting but after a bit he will get used to it and then things will bump along till you gt your cast off.

IN OTHER NEWS, i asked about helsinki because yes we were thinking about going there, buttttt, i managed to convince sara to look at flights to sweden instead! we are going to take a very short trip (6-7 days) to stockholm (most likely!) and i was reaaaaally hoping to 1) see you and 2) ask for your advice in planning it! YAYYYY!!

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

And here I'm stuck in my aparemtn when you plan to going to Sweden! Well, talk about bad luck! X-D

Stockholm is cool though! But going to the cold north, I'd suggest doing it during spring or summer, because right now it's... not the most fun country to visit. ;-) Just a tip. The main tip really. :-) But if you go during that time, I might get a chance to see you, becuase then my leg will be healed! :-D

I'm trying not to see myself as worthless. :-P I am trying to be good and not nag on Peting to. Because I know he struggles, so I am just not going to get on his case about household work. I am, however, getting us help. Even if it is really really tough to ask for help for me. :-)

[ruchirahni.livejournal.com]

sorry i forgot to say, in MAY! not now. a full three months from no when you'll be running on two feet again!

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

AHA! Now that's much better! And a perfect time to go, really! Sweden is very beautiful during spring! :-D

[ruchirahni.livejournal.com]

yay!!! as we talk about it more ill keep you updated :)

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

Awesome! Looking forward to hearing your plans! :-D