Linkdump Part 3: Body-positivity/Fat-activism

[kseenaa]

It's pretty amazing the things you find on the internet, isn't it? Especially when someone like me, who has fought to accept myself the way I look after years of bullying in school. Something I still to this day struggle with, even though I'm 36 years old now. I've gotten past much from my years as a bullied kid, but accepting the way I look? Harder. So much harder.

But then I stumbled upon this movement online... What FANTASTIC women!!! That's all I gota say about this... Just... Follow the links: Read, watch and enjoy these amazing women! Such attitude!!! :-D


Eating out where others can see you is never easy when you're being fat or heavy. I know this very very well. And these two posts describes this so very well it's bloody scary...

STOP! IT’S THE HOLIDAY SEASON FOOD POLICE!

Eating while fat

This was also a very interestingly written piece... WHY do we really wanna lose weight? To be happy? To fit in? Or why? It sure made me think a few times more...

The Fantasy Of Being Thin

Then there's those thin people who wants to help us poor fat people... Because we sure need help, right? But why do they wanna help us? Really? This also made me think.

You can not help those you loathe

Fat Heffalump is a pretty kickass fat lady, by the way. And I am so grateful to have found her. :-) Thanx snowstormskies for sending me the link to her blog. :-)

Fat Heffalump

Another interesting blogger is The Nearsighted Owl. Not only is she really cute and posts some awesome outfits of the day now and then... She is clever and fun to! And sports some ROCKING tattoos as well! :-D

The Nearsighted Owl

Then I got a link from an RP-friend of mine from New Zealand who follows this blog that has a really cool project. She's a fashionwriter and photographer, so this project... it's called Fat Girls Shouldn't Wear Stripes... And the girls she shoot picturs off are really REALLY cool! Not to mention the other posts she makes are usually fun and interesting as well. (If you like nailpolish, you should check it out for sure!)

Fat Girls Shouldn't Wear Stripes (About the project.)

This is Meagan Kerr

And then there's the sex... Because fat people can't have sex, right? Or enjoy it? And it's disgusting when fat people have sex, eh? Or it's used for comedy in movies... Fail. This was a fun, if NSFW! post on the subject. HOW can a fat girl have sex and actually enjoy her sexuality with a partner that enjoys her and her body? :-) I lvoed this, especially since it's written with such warm and flirty tone! So much win...

FAT SEX: What everyone wants to know but is afraid to ask

Lastly I'd like to point out the really awesome community fatshionista. It's a really cool community! A lot of nice Outfits Of The Day, discussions about reactions from society... where to buy nice clothes... etc, etc.. It's just a nice place all around. Highly recommended!


Promised a LARP-friend to share these links, so now I did. She is, by the way, a damn gorgeous young woman... And I haven't seen a woman rock a corset like her in a LONG time! And the amount of stuff she can hide in her décolletage is downright scary... o.O Yes, I have breast-envy. Shut up. *lol*

This entry is crossposted between LJ and DW. Comment where you are comfortable.

Comments

[steinsgrrl.livejournal.com]

Fantastic links, thank you! I love these sassy fat ladies. I especially liked the fat sex link. ;)

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

That fat sex link made me grin, because... well... Yeah. *LOL*

There's a lot of interesting stuff about this to read out there, for sure. It feels like I've just managed to scratch the surface. :-)

[snowstormskies.livejournal.com]

Awesome links!

And if I find anymore wonderful fat awesome links, I'll send them straight to you!

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

Well, it's thanx to a comment in one of YOUR posts actually that I ended up on this journey to find this stuff. :-) It feels like a snowball currently. *lol*

I'd love it if you shared more on the subject, yeah. :-)

Fat Positive

[heleng57.livejournal.com]

Like you I've struggled with weight issues my whole life and I'm now in my 50s. I think its great there are people working to change the way fat people are viewed. Thanks for posting about it and for the links.

Re: Fat Positive

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

:-) No worries! You are right in all you say, I agree! I just wish those who DO work on it, were a bit louder... But it's a step in the right direction at least. :-)

[roseraves.livejournal.com]

yay! i really like the concept of body positivity and i'm trying to come to terms with my own insecurities lately. i've been taking a lot of selfies (havent done this for YEARS!) and i was just sick with the lack of photos of me that existed. none of my friends or family take photos of me so i figured i'd do it myself and when i do i think it boosts my confidence even if selfies are considered uncool nowadays.

honestly my mom says things occasionally about women's weight, like for example she'll see a celebrity and talk about how "fat" that celebrity has gotten or something, and it really bothers me, and i find myself constantly defending them. but my mom will just say something like "but they're unhealthy, it's so unhealthy" and i'm just like "well its not your body to police, they can be unhealthy if they want, just get over yourself" however i often find myself saying similar things about thin women (not to their faces of course) but often in my head i will think "wow you need to eat something" and secretly be horrified by how skinny some people are, but then i realize that i'm being a hypocrite and i'm shaming thin bodies :( lol. we all need to accept the shapes and sizes people come in, and of course if someone has an eating disorder that's a different story

i wouldnt call myself fat but i wouldnt call myself thin either. i've gained 40 pounds since 2011 and so i'm definitely not where i was but i also look in the mirror and like what i see a lot because i see curves and meat on my bones and i'm just generally more confident in myself that way. i KNOW i ought to lose a few pounds just because i have developed acid reflux (wasnt a problem when i was a healthier weight) however it's much easier said than done to lose weight!

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

I don't do a lot of selfies either. :-P I have an Instagram, but I mostly post photos of my daughter on it. And random things that happens during the day. Not so many photos of myself.

Your mom should get a newsflash really... Just because you are fat do NOT mean you are unhealthy!

It's though really this thing with thin people, since they have the look that society wants. I know a few thin people and they are sick and tired of hearing how great they look, when all they try to do is gain weight, since they are TO thin at times. :-/ Society is a bit fucked up sometimes, ain't it?

[roseraves.livejournal.com]

whats your instagram account? you should add me :) my username is mprosebrook

yes, i know! part of me thinks she is only saying those things because she is concerned about her own self-esteem. she has ALWAYS had trouble losing weight and i rather than be comfortable with herself she is always frustrated by her own body :( so she takes it out on others. sad, really

i can't imagine being that skinny. it must be hard for some people because i see people often who are REALLY tall ladies and it must be hard for them to eat enough to fill out their own bodies because theyre so tall and skinny.

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

I'm kseenaa (http://instagram.com/kseenaa) there at Instagram as well. :-) (Surprise, surprise...) Stalking you now!