A silly worry?

[kseenaa]

My MIL is a bit funny, really... I love her to death, I really do... Apart from one thing.

She thinks she is a bother when she comes to visit... What? Me and peting73 are so hospitable it is almost ridicoulus. We are not bothered. You wanna visit us, you are MORE then welcome to do so! Just give us 5-10mins head-start so we are dressed and have the coffeepot on. And mind the dust-bunnies when you get here. You are NOT a bother! Period!

Also, Alexandra only got Grandma and Grandma... No grandfathers... My father is dead and well, peting73s is missing in action... Long story, but he is not around. And that's that. Not to mention my mother lives 2 hours away. peting73 lives on the other side of town. It takes her 20-30mins to get here. Tops! Sure, I am not saying she HAS to come here every day. Not saying that. But she visited when peting73 had his birthdayparty beginning of November... and today we called her and said we'll come visit her, since we hadn't seen each other in long. Like... almost a month.

Alexandra is her ONLY grandchild. peting73 her only son. Sure, they are not as close as I am with my family, but still? And there'll be no more kids here. My Endometriosis have made sure of that.

Am I to harsh? I don't know... I just... I don't know. I want Alexandra to have her grandmother around when growing up. I did, both, and I wouldn't be who I am today without them. And if it is like this already? :-/ *feels silly but a wee bit worried*

Anyhow, I am almost done with my Christmas-shopping, which kinda shocks me. o.O I didn't think I'd finish off this quickly, but seriously? Just happy about it! :-D Long live online-shopping! Just saying. :-D

I think I'll do the last of it next week. And as always, peting73 is the one giving me the worst head-ache! X-D I think I've done good though, and found gifts that'll make people happy with me. :-) I hope. I just need more wrapping paper now... *lol*

This entry is crossposted between LJ and DW. Comment where you are comfortable.

Comments

[steinsgrrl.livejournal.com]

I want to make sure I'm understanding. Is Peting's mom saying she doesn't come visit more often because she doesn't want to impose? How often would you like to see her? I'm not really one to say much about it, as we live 20 minutes from the kids' grandma, and Kat goes to school in the town where she lives, but I think she sees her grandma once every 4-5 months.

I'm envious of your Christmas shopping being done. I've done nothing! lol

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

Oh no! She is just saying she is to busy to come visit more. :-/ I don't know. Hearing you, maybe I ecpect to much? I mean, when I grew up I meet both my maternal and parternal grandparents once every week or every other week. :-P It was just the way I was brought up. :-) My extended family was very close. We visited each other very often. I meet my cousins every week or every other week to. :-P

peting73 and his lil family don't work like that. I just... can't see it all the time. They always apologize for being a bother and are we really SURE it is OK if they visit? etc, etc... I am not used to that. At all. With us, in my family it's just... open doors. All the time.

[steinsgrrl.livejournal.com]

Some families are just different, I guess. I think my sister and parents, even though only living 7 miles from each other, really only see each other at church, so Idk. I live 60 miles from my aunt and haven't seen her in years, but at one time I lived down the hall in the same apartment building as my sister and it was like living together.

Maybe she just really likes more time to herself and maybe does have trouble finding time for everything? :/

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

I know. :-) I never thought about the difference much before Alexandra was born, but it is starting to become more apparent I guess... I have to get used to it. As you say, everyone is different. For sooooo many years I thought all families worked like mine. I think I was almost 20 when it really hit him that not everyone are like that. During my trip to the US, no less! X-D

And I think you are right. :-) I'll just give her space and hopefully she'll get used to be a grandma and such to. :-)

[steinsgrrl.livejournal.com]

Good luck, honey. I hope that she'll get more into it. :)

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

Thank you! :-) *hugs*

[nupmetal.livejournal.com]

Congrats on almost finishing the shopping list, that was fast! O.O Haha <3.

And I guess I'm gonna ask you the same Mel asked you... Peting's mom is not visiting Alexandra too often because she doesn't want to impose? And how often would you like to see her? How often does she see you guys?. Hope I'm not overstepping, I just want to make sure I'm understanding why you are worried.

Have a nice Sunday <3

[kseenaa.livejournal.com]

Gonna finish more tomorrow. :-) Hopefully the entire thing! :-D Long live online shopping!

No overstepping. :-) Wouldn't have posted otherwise, would I? ;-)

Anway, as I said to steinsgrrl up there, I think I compare to much to my own childhood. I meet both my maternal and paternal grandparents around once a week.. or every other week. And that's just the way it was. I meet my cousins nearly every week to. We are very VERY close in my huge extended family. peting73s family don't work quite like it, and I thought I had gotten used to that, but apparently not. :-)

Thanx anyway! :-D